Stop mocking who you used to be stop belittling and insulting the child you were for things everyone in the world has gone through: puberty and all it comes with, braces, a bad haircut, your clothes, the childlike things you said. 13-year-old me wanted good friends and hated her acne and wanted better clothes and was terrified of people making fun of her for it so why should i do that now?? I deserved the love and respect at 13 that i do now and i’ll be the first to give it!
if u wouldn’t say it to a kids face today, don’t say it (or think it) about yourself at that age either. being embarrassing isn’t an unforgivable act, so forgive yourself for it and move on
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apply for jobs you’re not qualified for! audit upper-level classes! get drunk with your TAs! see that poster advertising that lecture series? go there take notes and ask questions! thank the presenter for talking about this topic you love! if the class is full before you register, email the professor and ask if they can squeeze you in! RAISE YOUR HAND! tell the disability accomodation office to do their goddamn job! ask for help! file complaints! go to class in your pajamas and destroy the reading! you got this! you KNOW you got this! be arrogant enough to learn EVERYTHING! take your meds! punch a velociraptor in the dick! fear is useless and temporary! glory is forever! shed your skin and erupt angel wings! help out! spread your sun!
i had a really good morning! you deserve a really good morning! kill anyone who says you don’t and build a throne from their bones!
Oddly inspiring
forgive yourself. whether you fail a test, eat too many cookies, say the wrong thing, fail a class, or spend a whole day in bed — learn to forgive yourself. the next day will be better. the next day will be a day closer to your next success. you can do it.
hey!! reminder that bi boys are allowed to be bi!! theres a lot of pressure on mlm to be Gay and date boys only but bi mlm are allowed to like girls too! you aren’t gross, and you don’t have to only like men to be allowed in this community!
idk what up with you demons in the notes but OP is absolutely right. bisexual people often feel pressure to be ‘gay enough’ to feel accepted by the LGBT community. it’s the opposite when we are in relationships with cishets, where we are pressured to appear as straight as possible. the op isn’t saying that gay men are privileged, they’re just addressing the notion that more often than not communities only care about us when we display an amount of attraction that is sufficient to them
You’re healing every time you
- get out of bed because there’s something you’re excited about.
- don’t think about people who left.
- clean the clutter in the room and dishes in your sink.
- smile at yourself and random people.
- do something kind and out of the blue to make someone happy.
- work out or meet with friends even though you have no energy to.
- calm yourself down when your thoughts race.
- remember to drink water.
- don’t dwell on things you can’t control.
- do things good for yourself, even though you have no motivation.
- tell yourself that you’re growing from this, and you won’t feel like this forever.
tips for incoming high school freshmen
- it can be a lot to take in. so first, take a deep breath.
- if you ever find yourself slacking off and procrastinating, remind yourself that this is the big leagues. the grade of this class could literally change your college future.
- try to get into the habit of studying every night. even if it’s just making a couple note cards of what you learned that day in class, going over something multiple times in the same day will help it stick. trust me.
- high schools typically have a wide range of electives, take a cool and new class while you can! always wanted to learn an instrument? take music! have a passion for art but haven’t done a whole lot with it? take sculpting or pottery or photography! expand your horizons.
- it’s okay to not be a straight-A honors student. sure, it could be amazing to be one, but it’s perfectly fine to be average.
- study. for. your. standardized. tests. whether it’s the ACT or SAT or your country’s equivalent, you’ll be happy that you studied.
- but know that you can take the ACT and SAT a bunch of times. yes, it’s super important to study, but it doesn’t all come down to that one number. (fun fact: i took the ACT 3 times)
- odds are your high school is going to be bigger than the previous school you were in. expect a lot of people and try to not let it overwhelm you. the world is a big place.
- start thinking about if you’ll want to do AP or IB your last two years of high school. ask around, get to know the teachers, learn about the program, and find out if it’s right for you.
- things can get… clique-y. don’t feel pressured to be popular. popular people are most likely peaking in high school anyways.
- yes, you’ll be applying for college in a few years. no, you don’t have to. it’s fine to choose to take a gap year or go to community college or go straight into work or to have no idea what you want to do. just do what works for you. you’ll have time to think about it.
- things can suck in high school. there’s drama and stress and frustration and confusion and sometimes it all just… sucks. but i promise you that this feeling is temporary. it’ll get better. (i’m awkward af but feel free to message me if you ever just need to talk or to vent or need a friend, my messages are always open ☺️)
- don’t feel pressured to have your life sucked up by thinking about your career/college future. it’s good to think about, but focus on the now.
- don’t think that you have to go to parties or get drunk or have sex or do drugs to be cool. not only is this pointless but it’s also dangerous. parties are trouble. (plus high school parties are lame, tbh. i’d much rather be at home watching netflix)
- you won’t see it until around graduation, but you’ll have a lot of personal growth throughout the next couple years. high school is a time for learning and growing as a person. so it’s normal to feel like things are just… weird. because they are. thing’s are changing, but for the better.
- this is just another step in life. it’s new, it’s fun, it’s stressful, it’s crazy, it’s weird, and it’s great. dive in.
- you. got. this.
Open relationships seem to be becoming more popular which is cool, but this should be kept in mind:
If your partner is allowed to flirt and mess around with other people, and you’re not, you’re not in an open relationship. You’re being strung along, manipulated, and emotionally abused by someone who wants to do what they want on their terms, and control you at the same time.
Get out.
i hope you all have successful careers. whether your field is low paying or high paying, whether you are pursuing a passion or doing what you can to get by, whether you have known your future since fifth grade or are still trying to figure out what you want to be, whether you become an engineer or an artist or a stripper or a technician or a business owner or a nurse or a designer or a construction worker; i hope your career thrives and brings you some type of joy. you deserve it.
hey guys unpopular opinion but you’re not a bad person if you don’t care about every bad thing happening in the world all the time, or if you do care but you’re not constantly reblogging posts spreading awareness and information
it’s okay if you’re just on tumblr to have fun and reblog things you like or that make you happy.
humans aren’t made to process trauma and suffering on a worldwide scale without any breaks whatsoever & the internet has created an unprecedented access to bad news so please never feel guilty for scrolling past it because you can’t process it! and you’re not doing anything wrong & there’s no need to feel guilty
I always hope that people who see all my activism posts don’t think I expect them to be the same. It makes total sense to just want to have a place to be into your fandoms. That’s up to you and you’re not a bad person for wanting to rest.
things that make people feel loved:
- making them a playlist
- baking them cookies
- giving them flowers
- creating art for them
- random reminders that they are loved
- writing them a poem
- complimenting them on their talents
- asking how their day was
- sending them links to things you think they will like
- random hugs
- “This made me think of you”
